Category: tools

I wasn’t a big reader in my 20’s (not sure if that also played a role in my inability to learn during those ages?) . Once I started getting into my recovery I started reading again.  Reading almost made me smarter in a way, feels like it at least.  You get a chance to learn…

Here are a few things that I’ve learned from individual and marriage counseling that have been helpful in restoring my marriage and helping me get to a place of sanity.  Counseling helps to start working on what’s going on inside of you. We need to get to the root of what led you to acting out…

This will come from attending 12 step groups. (but you also can have other men from church or in your life outside of groups as well) Meet a few guys that you connect with and work on your recovery together.  Sharing and listening to others helps keep you sober.  Its nice having some other human being…

These have been huge in getting a chance to connect with other men who are going through the same challenges that you are.  Complete strangers that speak the same language that you do.  From experience a lot of these men have struggled with inadequacy and self importance their entire lives and used sex to cover…

Yeah so this is much easier said than done. How do i find god, and if it was that easy I would have done it already. Who is god?  Does he even exist?  How can I reach him?  My lived experience getting to know God was something that I could’ve never imagined and something that…

What is acting out? In my experience, I have learned that healthy sexuality is not what the world defines it as. Sex is linked to love, which is not meant to be selfish or self-serving. Despite popular belief nowadays, sex can never replace a lack of connection. In recovery, the term “sexual acting out” refers…

One tool that became very important early in my recovery was learning to control my eyes. While it may not be the single most important step—connecting with God is #1—it was essential in helping me gain control over what I allowed into my mind from the outside. Before I became aware of this, my eyes…

As someone who was more an agnostic theist, I found the concept of surrender baffling.  What does it even mean?  How does it work?   What I have come to experience in recovery is that Surrender is the key to gaining progressive victory over Lust and other character defects that we have.  I was inspired to…