Got to Get Some… God

Author: Jay

  • Why are people Different?

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    Although it seems like a silly question to ask, when you are wrapped up in yourself you spend more time thinking about why people aren’t like you, then you do about what makes other people unique. As for me when I was living in my addiction, and even now, I need a reminder that people…

  • Questions to ask myself

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    I’m come across some really good questions over the years that have helped me ponder life a little bit deeper. If you are struggling with any kind of addiction, hopefully these can help change perspective. Do you find yourself angry and disconnected from others?   Do you think that if someone else just changes to see…

  • Why do I feel inadequate?

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    As i ponder back on my life I wonder exactly when I picked up the lie that I’m not good enough. I grew up in a conditional love and transactional household. While we were blessed going up in comparison to other parts of the world the emotional and spiritual was missing. I think it started…

  • What is Intimacy?

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    I want to focus on the different levels of intimacy in a marriage.  Recently I spoke with a guy who said he had no idea what intimacy was.  If you have spent a majority of your life as a lust addict, its going to take some time to start feeling love.  To start feeling true…

  • I’m starting to heal but my spouse can’t see it now what?

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    I still remember the day.  I was 3-4 months into recovery (and sober) at that point  I was getting ready to start my day and something happened with my wife where we got into a big argument.  It was still early on in my recovery and she was still in a place where she was…

  • What would I do if I was in today’s dating scene?

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     bring this question up after having a discussion with a family member who is still in the dating scene.   It’s hard for you to appreciate what married life and single life have to offer when you haven’t experienced them both.  Being in a now happy marriage (after years of recovery and healing together), I really…

  • Do you think you’ll stay sober for the rest of your life?

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    I was at lunch with a friend of mine a few weeks ago and he asked that question.  My answer surprised him as it wasn’t as simple as a yes or no.  It brought me back to the moment in marriage therapy when my counselor mentioned not acting out again.  I’d had a few months…

  • What are the benefits of being sober from Lust?

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    So why would you not want to watch pornography? What are the benefits? Explaining this to an adult as opposed to a teen is different…however some will understand.  I’ll list all the benefits and blessings that I have seen from changing my life and not acting out anymore.

  • The struggle of being a Christian and battling with Lust

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    A topic got brought up at one of my meetings recently about sermons in church that talk about how evil and how bad Lust is, and that you’re going to go to hell if you keep lusting.   Now I do not disagree with that, clearly having my life dominated by lust.  But I wanted to…

  • #20 Covenant Eyes

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    This is one that I didn’t use myself. I was lucky enough (so far) to have been given the grace I needed to know that I’m not going to do this anymore.  But I have heard it’s been very helpful to others in cutting out bad sites and having someone who can be a partner in…