Category: tools
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I’m starting to heal but my spouse can’t see it now what?
I still remember the day. I was 3-4 months into recovery (and sober) at that point I was getting ready to start my day and something happened with my wife where we got into a big argument. It was still early on in my recovery and she was still in a place where she was…
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#20 Covenant Eyes
This is one that I didn’t use myself. I was lucky enough (so far) to have been given the grace I needed to know that I’m not going to do this anymore. But I have heard it’s been very helpful to others in cutting out bad sites and having someone who can be a partner in…
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#19 Living life one day at a time (24 hours a day)
This is something I didn’t start doing until later on, maybe 2 years into recovery. But its something that I wish I started earlier. There’s a saying, I just have to stay sober today. I remember thinking while in counseling that I have no idea how I am going to be able to stay sober…
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#18 Read the life recovery bible
Early on in my recovery this book was very helpful. Its the bible lol, but also just having the recovery elements in there gave it a different angle that is hard to get sometimes when you read the bible without any context. Especially when you are just getting started into your recovery. I was coming…
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#17 Set up boundaries
My first thought is whats a boundary? Everything that my mother threatened me never held up. Words she would say didn’t matter. If you do this then this is your consequence, ya sure mom. I would cross the line and then say now what? I also inherited the people pleaser gene. As a people pleaser…
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#16 Establish and maintain priorities
As a former addict my first and only priority was acting out. So even though there are many other important things in my life, I would be willing to push them to the side to get my fix and allow the feelings and the heat of the moment erase all logic and reason. I’d give…
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#15 Get to the root of core issues
Figure out why you keep resorting to acting out. What feeling and lies are you telling yourself that leads you towards those activities? The crazy thing with lust is you don’t need an excuse to act out. I did it when I was happy as a gift to myself. I did it when I was…
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#14 Take out the trash (get rid of anything that is feeding your system lust)
Remove anything in your life that contains sexually explicit material or constantly triggers temptation—movies, TV shows, music, social media, photos, videos, magazines, or anything connected to past relationships or hookups. Especially in the beginning stages of recovery, you have to clean house. Get rid of anything that feeds lust or pulls you back into old…
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#13 Try to live a life like Jesus (One of love, not selfishness)
So what do I mean here? Just from personal experience when I was living life my way, the results just weren’t pretty. So when i say try to live like him it’s more trying to emulate who he was. Even though it’s impossible for us to be just like him, what we can focus on…
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#12 Reflect on yourself (Check in with yourself)
I’d recommend taking 30 mins a week where you can sit and have some quiet reflecting time. Nothing that can distract you from this time. It’s where you can read your journal, pray, sit down and evaluate where you are at in life. See where you have made progress, and then look at things that…