bring this question up after having a discussion with a family member who is still in the dating scene. It’s hard for you to appreciate what married life and single life have to offer when you haven’t experienced them both. Being in a now happy marriage (after years of recovery and healing together), I really feel for the people out there who are looking for genuine connection.
Prior to my recovery and even marriage, when I would go on these dating sites or out in public to meet people I had 1 thing on my mind. Sex. I was extremely shallow, selfish, and was a lust addict (i had no idea) So each profile I would look through or girl that I would check out at the bar, the 1st intention was always figuring out a way to “get some”.
Now that I am out of that (thank God) and happily married I think about how challenging it has to be today for anyone of faith and healing who is looking for someone to marry eventually and grow with. Because I don’t think that I was the only addict out there. The world is sure full of them. And instead of looking for a real connection and a relationship that falls under Gods values, they are looking for the quick fix and anything to get their numbers( Amount of sex partners) up.
So for you christian men and women looking for genuine connection, If I had to get back out there this is what my profile would look like:
My name is ______ and I’m looking for a genuine connection. Here is what I mean by that. I want to love and be loved by someone, not in physical sense but loved in a way that Christ loves his church. I want the LAST form of intimacy that we experience together to be physical, which will happen on our wedding day. I want to get to know you on an emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and communicative intimacy level. I don’t expect you to be perfect, because I am not either. I want you to be honest and vulnerable. I want to be able to work through our conflict and have trust that when things get hard we will work through it together.
I value and praise God, and wont accept someone who doesn’t do the same. I’m interested in someone who can take accountability, criticism, and is self aware. I value deep OPEN communication.
If that first part didn’t scare you off here is a little bit more about me:
I’d list all the fun things about myself, personality type, things I’d like to do.
Looking forward to meeting someone who shares these values!
P.S. I’m a former lust addict so if thats what you came here for I’ll see right through you.
I’m laughing so hard as I’m writing this because this would be bound to scare away 99% of the people that would see a profile like this. But as someone who understands they are loved by God and the value that each and everyone of us brings. Its worth the wait. Its worth weeding out the weeds and harvesting only the good crop. And its better to be honest an upfront now, then to get months or years down the road living a lie or being uncomfortable because you were more concerned with being liked than being loved.
God Bless and good luck out there to all you single christians looking for a real connection.
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