#15 Get to the root of core issues

Figure out why you keep resorting to acting out.  What feeling and lies are you telling yourself that leads you towards those activities? 

The crazy thing with lust is you don’t need an excuse to act out.  I did it when I was happy as a gift to myself. I did it when I was sad to make myself feel better. When I was angry to calm myself down.  When I was bored because I had nothing to do.  When I was busy and I needed it to relieve the stress of everything going on.  But what was underneath it all? What was the root?  

Start to learn and figure out why you ran to acting out in the first place?  Maybe originally it was just out of curiosity, but then it became a pain solution.  Something that made you feel good with all the pain that was going on in your life. It eventually became the solution to the pain, and then took on a life of its own where it had to be something that you did on a daily basis or multiple times a day.  You had to get that high.

So figure out why? Why do you need that in your life?  What are you running from?  Why do you keep going back?  Why can’t you stop until you slow down?

Maybe its Inadequacy. When we feel inadequate or unloved it’s not always fun to learn about ourselves.  But when we can finally take accountability for our actions and the way we are, be honest and real with ourselves, we have a place to start to make changes.  Being honest with yourself about your shortcomings doesn’t mean that you are inadequate or unlovable, it means you are human.  Most of the world doesn’t want us to talk about struggles and shortcomings, they see it as a sign of weakness.  What if your weakness could become a strength?  What if your struggles were meant to connect you with someone else?  

When we can learn the truth about who we are and be honest to ourselves, we can then start the process of figuring out how to start making positive changes in our lives.   If I don’t like the fact that I am a hypocrite, step 1 is to be honest with myself that I have that tendency to be hypocritical. Step 2 is catching it as quickly as possible when I start to become that way. Then Step 3 is taking action but doing what I tell others to do, or doing what I say I am going to.

Getting to the core and naming what you are feeling is the best way to fight lust.  I can tell you how many times I said I’m upset but I have no idea why!  Once I am able to figure out the root of the issue and name it I can move on.

Lust is an intimacy disorder.  We are made for connection with others and we were made to be loved. When we don’t receive that love we try to find it artificially.

Ask yourself today, Why do I always run to acting out instead of dealing with my issues head on?  What’s underneath it all?

Good luck and God bless!