Got to Get Some… God

Author: Jay

  • #9 Sign up for Daily Devotionals

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    These are very helpful especially in early recovery.  It takes maybe 2-5 minutes to start your day off with that meditation.  Get a good head start on something that will encourage you along your journey.  Daily hope, a recovery devotional, what the bible says about dealing with difficult people.  All of these are great to…

  • #8 Read as much recovery literature as possible

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    I wasn’t a big reader in my 20’s (not sure if that also played a role in my inability to learn during those ages?) . Once I started getting into my recovery I started reading again.  Reading almost made me smarter in a way, feels like it at least.  You get a chance to learn…

  • #7 Go to counseling (personal and marriage)

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    Here are a few things that I’ve learned from individual and marriage counseling that have been helpful in restoring my marriage and helping me get to a place of sanity.  Counseling helps to start working on what’s going on inside of you. We need to get to the root of what led you to acting out…

  • #21 What are your love languages?

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    If you have never read the book the 5 love languages, I highly encourage you to do so. If you are anything like me when you first read it, the concepts are going to seem like they come from outer space. Then you are going to wonder how can I see this in real time?…

  • #6 Get an accountability partner(s)

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    This will come from attending 12 step groups. (but you also can have other men from church or in your life outside of groups as well) Meet a few guys that you connect with and work on your recovery together.  Sharing and listening to others helps keep you sober.  Its nice having some other human being…

  • The 45 day challenge

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    Here is the challenge for the next 45 days.  Stop objectifying women, when you do, write down how many times you looked.  (Eyes) Start a daily journal to track your progress.  Make a phone call when you are tempted. (mind) Instead of watching pornography go take a walk outside.  Cut off Social media for 45…

  • #5 Join a 12 step group

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    These have been huge in getting a chance to connect with other men who are going through the same challenges that you are.  Complete strangers that speak the same language that you do.  From experience a lot of these men have struggled with inadequacy and self importance their entire lives and used sex to cover…

  • #2 Find God

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    Yeah so this is much easier said than done. How do i find god, and if it was that easy I would have done it already. Who is god?  Does he even exist?  How can I reach him?  My lived experience getting to know God was something that I could’ve never imagined and something that…

  • #1 Desire to stop acting out

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    What is acting out? In my experience, I have learned that healthy sexuality is not what the world defines it as. Sex is linked to love, which is not meant to be selfish or self-serving. Despite popular belief nowadays, sex can never replace a lack of connection. In recovery, the term “sexual acting out” refers…

  • How do I stop acting out?

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    Here are 21 tips and tools to help you stop acting out. I’ll go into detail later on each one and what that looks like but here is a blueprint. #1 Desire to stop acting out #2 Find God #3 Control your Eyes #4 Get thoughts out of your head (surrender) #5 Join a 12…