Got to Get Some… God

Category: healing

  • Questions to ask myself

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    I’m come across some really good questions over the years that have helped me ponder life a little bit deeper. If you are struggling with any kind of addiction, hopefully these can help change perspective. Do you find yourself angry and disconnected from others?   Do you think that if someone else just changes to see…

  • Why do I feel inadequate?

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    As i ponder back on my life I wonder exactly when I picked up the lie that I’m not good enough. I grew up in a conditional love and transactional household. While we were blessed going up in comparison to other parts of the world the emotional and spiritual was missing. I think it started…

  • What is Intimacy?

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    I want to focus on the different levels of intimacy in a marriage.  Recently I spoke with a guy who said he had no idea what intimacy was.  If you have spent a majority of your life as a lust addict, its going to take some time to start feeling love.  To start feeling true…

  • I’m starting to heal but my spouse can’t see it now what?

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    I still remember the day.  I was 3-4 months into recovery (and sober) at that point  I was getting ready to start my day and something happened with my wife where we got into a big argument.  It was still early on in my recovery and she was still in a place where she was…

  • Do you think you’ll stay sober for the rest of your life?

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    I was at lunch with a friend of mine a few weeks ago and he asked that question.  My answer surprised him as it wasn’t as simple as a yes or no.  It brought me back to the moment in marriage therapy when my counselor mentioned not acting out again.  I’d had a few months…

  • I have an unhealthy relationship with sports

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    Prior to recovery, I spent at least 3 hours a day on anything sports related.  Since I didn’t have god in my life I would use sports to fill that void. (when i wasn’t acting out).  I needed something to entertain me. If it was my team, then sometimes that would be 6 hours or…

  • #13 Try to live a life like Jesus (One of love, not selfishness)

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    So what do I mean here? Just from personal experience when I was living life my way, the results just weren’t pretty.  So when i say try to live like him it’s more trying to emulate who he was.  Even though it’s impossible for us to be just like him, what we can focus on…

  • #12 Reflect on yourself (Check in with yourself)

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    I’d recommend taking  30 mins a week where you can sit and have some quiet reflecting time.  Nothing that can distract you from this time.  It’s where you can read your journal, pray, sit down and evaluate where you are at in life.  See where you have made progress, and then look at things that…

  • #21 What are your love languages?

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    If you have never read the book the 5 love languages, I highly encourage you to do so. If you are anything like me when you first read it, the concepts are going to seem like they come from outer space. Then you are going to wonder how can I see this in real time?…

  • The 45 day challenge

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    Here is the challenge for the next 45 days.  Stop objectifying women, when you do, write down how many times you looked.  (Eyes) Start a daily journal to track your progress.  Make a phone call when you are tempted. (mind) Instead of watching pornography go take a walk outside.  Cut off Social media for 45…