Author: Jay
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Chameleon
Prior to my recovery I was a major people pleaser. I also had flexible morals based on how I felt at the moment. I didn’t know how to stand for anything or to defend my position without getting angry. I would change colors depending on who I was around. I wanted to be liked by…
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Gratitude
Why is it so hard to appreciate what I’ve been given? Why do I find it difficult to live in the moment? How can I genuinely appreciate and be thankful for gifts or nice things that are done for me? It’s almost if I have this expectation that people will do things for me. I…
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#3 Do you know where your eyes are looking?
One tool that became very important early in my recovery was learning to control my eyes. While it may not be the single most important step—connecting with God is #1—it was essential in helping me gain control over what I allowed into my mind from the outside. Before I became aware of this, my eyes…
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Fantasy
Why is it that my brain can create entire scenarios with no resistance at all? When I was living in the addiction, I cherished the fantasy world in my mind. I would think about anything that promised instant gratification. What I didn’t realize at the time was that it wasn’t always sexual. Sometimes I imagined…
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#4 Surrender
As someone who was more an agnostic theist, I found the concept of surrender baffling. What does it even mean? How does it work? What I have come to experience in recovery is that Surrender is the key to gaining progressive victory over Lust and other character defects that we have. I was inspired to…
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How do I start healing? Where do I go from here?
Following Discovery or disclosure these questions will surely be on your mind. If you are anything like me, you have been living a life that has secrets buried underneath. Have you been allowing lust to run rampant in every aspect of your life.? So how to you start to heal? Here is a list of…
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My Story
My journey into recovery was unexpected. First, because I didn’t think I had a problem—at least not before recovery.Second, because had COVID not happened, California might not have completely shut down and taken away everything I found meaning in. California shut down everything: bars, restaurants, anything deemed non-essential. The world paused. All of my sports…
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Is Sex an addiction?
Come on you cant be addicted to sex! Its just guys being guys. It feels really good. Its part of our natural drive as human beings. You cant argue with those last two. It does feel good, and it is apart of our drive as human beings. Yet when does it cross the line? When…
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Why “Got to Get Some God”?
Well first off, it came to me through prayer and out of all the other names that I was asking around about this one wasn’t taken online. (so led me to think maybe he was pushing this). Also I think about changing the narrative. When I was actively living in my addiction. I got to…